Am I Really Negative or is it Just My Thinking?

Dr Kenneth Cooper, an American medical doctor and former airforce colonel revolutionized our understanding of heart disease prevention. In his book Aerobics (1968) he outlined how people who are sedentary or have diseased hearts, have a limited amount a vascularization ( blood flowing in and out) of our hearts. When those limited pathways are blocked our hearts cannot receive necessary blood flow and oxygen which often results in heart attacks and death.

Dr Cooper discovered that short sessions (20 minutes) of aerobic activity a few times a week actually increased the number of pathways blood could take in and out of our hearts so if one pathway was blocked there were still options availability. This discovery spawned the craze of aerobic dance, Jazzercize, Richard Simmons, leg warmers, headbands and millions of people who did not die because they now felt empowered to be healthier.

I taught aerobic dance in the 80’s and not only was it a blast it also felt awesome to be encouraging all sorts of people who had never exercised to take fate into their hands and be healthy.

In a similar way our own personal thought process can default to a well trodden path of negativity. It can be such a familiar pathway that we often actually just believe that is the way things are. Have you ever been presented with an opportunity and instantly a thought pops into your mind…..I’m not capable of that….I’m not smart enough..not enough people will like me…that is not for people like me…and on and on.
The beliefs we think about ourselves can be like that blocked artery in our heart. With no new thinking we slowly are starved of self love, confidence, joy, appreciation and hold ourselves back from doing the things we so badly want to do.

The great news is that just like a 20 minute dance break can strengthen your heart, taking time to observe our thinking and grow new pathways in our brain can unblock our lives.

Challenging and exploring new outside the box thinking literally helps the Neurons in our brains brave uncharted trails forging multiple new pathways to default to.

The most exciting and rewarding work I do is to Coach clients in discovering alternative options for their thinking. It is such a rewarding experience watching in the beginning a bit of a puzzled look which morphs into a glowing smile and a total change of body posture as they relax into their new mindset of possibilities.

What if the imperfection you believe is holding you back isn’t true?

I was walking with two of my favourite women the other day. Both of these women are intelligent, creative and outwardly attractive people. It was an illuminating moment for me as we were walking and each randomly brought up a physical feature that they were hyper aware of. This feature about their appearance was really bothering them and I could tell that they had been very focused on finding a solution to their “problem”. The interesting part of this experience was that I had never been aware nor could see the actual physical problem bothering them.

It made me wonder how much of our time and energy we bypass from a positive focus in our life to a feature of our appearance that we believe is holding us back. Yet what if no one else can see it?

I have certainly met both women and men who were holding themselves back in life until they…lost the weight…got into shape…got healthy….fixed some other aspect of their physical appearance

Our thought limitations so powerfully create this belief that we can’t achieve the things that we want until….that elusive situation comes to be.

What if the beliefs holding us back are not actually true? What if somewhere in our mind we created this false belief that we have rehearsed so many times it feels like part of who we are?

If you notice you are constantly criticizing yourself, or having a silent conversation around waiting to begin what you really want – after …… is resolved, life could be on hold because of a limiting belief. Now imagine yourself in the same situation free of the belief that was holding you back. How is your life?

The idea of limiting beliefs is old school Cognitive Behavioral Therapy developed by Dr. Aaron Beck. Today there are new pioneers like Byron Katie who have managed to put a new spin on old work.

In my practice I have had an incredible amount of success helping people break through and dissolve beliefs holding them back from living a rich and satisfying life. Watching beliefs dissolve is amazing, it is almost as if people can finally and freely breathe deeply.

Para Nordic Skier

I am a Para Nordic Skier and was a member of Canada’s Paralympic Team who competed in the 2010 Games.  I have an Aquired Brain Injury, so I was not sure that hypnosis would work on a damaged brain.I saw Jill for a number of sessions prior to World Cup races in Europe and the Paralympics .  I believe as a result of the work we did together, I was able to overcome the anxiety that I had been experiencing.  My performance was much improved and I was able to reach personal best times in my races, and even more important enjoy the experiences of competing for Canada on the world stage.

Stress-What is it really and how does it work?

We have all heard about the negative effects of stress and how in today’s world we are under so much more of it but what is it really?

Imagine it this way-we experience an event (real or imaginary) and then in an instant we perceive that event. The event itself is called a stressor. Our perception of that stressor sends an automatic message to our mind and our body.

If we perceive the event as positive we experience what is called eustress or positive stress. We may feel energized or excited by it. It might give us energy to perform well in things like a competition, gig, speech, academic requirement or job interview.
We might even enjoy how it feels.

If we experience the event as negative we experience distress. This negative stressor might cause us to feel alarmed, anxious, panicked, tense, depressed or unhappy. We may feel butterflies in our stomach, or a tightening in our chest, tense muscles in our neck, back or shoulders. We might clench or grind our teeth, have a hard time concentrating or thinking or get a headache.

The moment we perceive a stressor as distress, our mind and body that are connected go through a series of chemical changes that are both short and long term acting. Over time and repetition this distress might impact our mind and body negatively. Diseases such as diabetes, digestive disorders, autoimmune diseases, a decreased immune system, migraine headaches, high blood pressure, cardiovascular diseases and high cholesterol are a few negative symptoms of chronic stress.

A partial list of emotional symptoms can include; insomnia, emotional eating, anxiety (social anxiety, agoraphobia, generalized anxiety disorder, post traumatic stress disorder) depression, anger and resentment, a short attention span, difficulty maintaining relationships and difficulty coping with work.

Understanding that these symptoms are treatable is the first step towards change. Counselling and Hypnotherapy in combination can release the built up negative emotional pressure that results from chronic stress and allow you to find a calm, safe place from which to re engineer the areas in your life creating the distress. Counselling and hypnotherapy can allow you to balance out your life so that it is enjoyable, positive and fulfilling.

Living Now!

The New Year is always a time for people to reflect on the past year and make resolutions for the year to come. Often the goals we set involve changing behaviours and habits we have lived with for a long time. It takes time to replace old habits with new ones and in the moment we often feel energized to jump into to “our new way” and then many people become discouraged when habits are not immediately different.

I encourage everyone to focus on the present right now and begin to embrace changing one small thing at a time,enjoying the process of now rather looking towards the future.

Today find one small thing you are comfortable with and wanting to do differently, whether it’s moving your body just for today! Putting healthy nutritious food into your body just for today! Notice how empowering it feels to allow yourself to make that change. Notice how good it feels to be able to do that for yourself. Your confidence and self esteem increases with every little moment of change you choose to allow yourself to make and tomorrow is another day to do the same!

Now smile and enjoy it!

Removing Negative Emotion

Negative emotions and patterns of self destructive behaviours blocked me from living my life. Jill worked patiently to bring my awareness to certain issues behind the patterns and from there we worked at allowing the patterns to dissolve. It is also important to note that Jill provided me with the “skills” I needed to go forward in my life; skills that I can and do use when faced with situations that would have overwhelmed me in the past. I do not underachieve anymore. For the first time ever I have emotional freedom to make decisions that will take me where I want to go in life and in these past months I have come a long way.”

L.A. – Fraser Valley, B.C.

Gain Confidence

As an elite national athlete in a sport that relies strongly on mental strength and confidence in ones ability, working with Jill has given me the tools through hypnosis, to feel more powerful and confident than ever before in my training and in competition. Being able to find my focus and keep my focus throughout my routines has allowed me to become more consistent in my performances. Whether I am competing at a Provincial, National or representing Canada at an International competition, I feel ready and prepared for which ever obstacles I am faced with.”

S.D. Lower Mainland, B.C.

Gained Confidence

Two years ago I had taken up horseback riding as an adult. I love horses and I love the sport but was overwhelmed by frustration because I was allowing my anxieties and fears to block me from progressing and fully enjoying the experience of being on horseback. I was physically and emotionally frozen by my fears and unable to think in the moment.

After my sessions with Jill I was able to break through many barriers and work towards and gain new skills that I never even thought possible. I am now able to jump a course and feel the exhilaration of jumping it with the horse instead of feeling the terrors of possibly making a mistake.

Happily, I would also like to add that this new gained confidence from riding has spread into many other areas of my life. Any expectations that I may have had of hypnotherapy had been greatly exceeded.

NT

Uncontrollable Anxiety

I became interested in hypnotherapy for a very specific reason – uncontrollable anxiety. I had met Jill in an unrelated way, and was inquiring about what she did and how it worked, more out of interest in something new. When I asked about issues with anxiety and panic she said that hypnotherapy was highly effective in changing habits and how we perceive a given situation. It sounded interesting because I had already come to the conclusion that I over-reacted to many situations due to my upbringing and the ways in which I had seen my dad react to situations. I really felt that I was imitating his reactions, but no matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t bring about a change in the basic, almost primal way, that I reacted i.e.: heart pounding, adrenaline rushing, fearing the worst, not being able to concentrate, worrying constantly about the next thing. Very small inconveniences became things to fear. I would wake up early in the morning (4 am) in a panic because of issues I had going around and around in my head. I couldn’t quiet them. So I decided to give it a try. I was very excited about the way Jill had described it working, and it did work. I felt a difference after the first session. Then after the 2nd and 3rd sessions, I noticed several big changes. Situations where, in the past, I would have reacted poorly, I was calm and sensible. I was so excited! It might sound small to other people when I explain it to them, but to me it was (and is) huge!! I woke up in the middle of the night one evening shortly after the 2nd session and had a vague feeling of anxiety try to creep in — and I actually laughed out loud. It was nothing short of amazing. I went back to bed and fell asleep immediately, where in the past, the anxiety would have taken hold.
I have told many friends about the process – and they see the difference in me. They know what I have been through in trying to sort this problem out and they are also pretty amazed at the results. I would recommend it to anyone for a wide variety of issues. I had been through counseling (5 sessions) prior to this, and while it was a positive experience, the hypnotherapy was so much more effective and efficient. Amazing really.
Thank you Jill for introducing me to, and bringing me through such an amazing process!

JP